“The Queen would like to invite you to a small luncheon party at Buckingham Palace. Are you able to attend?” This was an invitation I received via a phone call from a senior official at Buckingham Palace and, as you can imagine, I wasn’t sure the call was genuine at first. But when the formal invitation arrived, I knew this was the real thing.
When I arrived in London on the night before the event, I was very nervous. When I learned the names and status of the other invited guests, I became even more nervous. As far as I was concerned, I was out of my depth!
But I needn’t have worried. As I was about to discover, Her Majesty had time for everybody, and she was more interested in your experiences of life than anything to do with status.
At lunch I was seated next to The Queen, on her left, but I was unaware of all the protocols attached to such an event. When I heard Her Majesty speaking about one of her dogs, one well known in the gundog world, I made the mistake of speaking first and most definitely out of turn. I was politely and very discreetly made aware of this by a member of staff, who whispered very quietly in my ear, telling me how The Queen would speak to me shortly, after the first course had finished.
So, when The Queen did turn to speak to me, I felt obliged to apologise for breaking protocol. Sensing my discomfort, Her Majesty replied, “Don’t worry about it. I didn’t notice.”
She then went on to tell me that I’d had a very interesting life, an observation that amazed me, considering that the most famous woman in the world should consider my life even faintly interesting.
Her Majesty spoke about many things, but she was particularly interested in the Trough of Bowland where I’d worked as an estate manager for 17 years. She loved the area, the people and the landscape. She considered Bowland to be an amazing place, where rivers, streams, pasture, woodland, and the high moorlands merged to create an amazing mosaic for wildlife.
She remembered her visits to the area with great fondness and spoke of her pleasure at meeting with the ‘keepers on the Abbeystead Estate, a place she often visited with her dogs during the shooting season.
I also took the opportunity to thank The Queen for her generosity in allowing the Sandringham Estate to be used for a fundraising clay pigeon shoot in support of the Gamekeepers’ Welfare Trust. This had raised a great deal of money for the Trust, and she was delighted.
An opportunity to dine with The Queen was an incredible experience. It also taught me a lot about Her Majesty’s own personality. She had many great qualities, but the ones that stand out for me are those of modesty and empathy, and how she used these to good effect in making me feel at ease in her presence. That was special, and I will never forget it.